Dear Sir,

Thank you for your reply. Nowadays even getting a reply email from girl's parents is a rare event!

I understand your preference of prospective groom being a certain geographical location. But given today's volatile job market situation what guarantee is that someone who is in Chennai today or when he is married to your daughter is going to be in Chennai forever? What if he or your daughter gets a brilliant position, which gives complete satisfaction and justice to the education he or she earned, in a foreign location? After wedding?

By the same token what guarantee is that someone who is in Doha/Dubai/Singapore right now is going to be forever in that location???

I am sure you will agree that what should be of prime importance is the fact that the boy and girl should understand each other and have frequency match and the respective families have an affinity to each other. Geographical location of someone's job is just mere details which the person himself don't have total control over.

There are various reasons why someone is in a particular job in a particular country. Do you believe in dismissing an alliance for the mere fact that he is not in a certain location without EVEN getting to know more about the prospective groom?

I am sure given the surfeit of eligible bachelors in our community you will have plenty of choice in your preferred location. But at what cost?

I work at the forefront of world's cutting edge research. As part of my job I frequently meet with heads of states of various countries and help in decision making and research policy shaping of several developing countries.

I work ( and get handsomely paid) for finding solutions for fatal diseases, clean water, energy and security. Things that matter to our everyday life. So its more than just a job.

But all that is meaningless when it comes to finding a suitable life partner for me. and WHY? because I am not in a certain geographical location.

And from where I am right now I can be in Chennai in 4 hrs time. Faster than coming from Bangalore to Chennai.I have close to two and a half months of paid vacation per year to do that 4 hr journey SEVERAL times a year as I wish.

I am not being arrogant here. I am just stating my case. I have reached a good position in my life by getting a good education and sacrificing being away from family for several years. And my very own success is proving detrimental to me?

I am writing this email for my own selfish reason. Of course there are 1000's of guys like me in similar situation who are penalized for being successful in their life.

I sincerely hope you will put more thought in to an alliance and not just a geographical location.

Thank you for your time!

Sincerely,

A would be groom's reply to a would be bride declining him on grounds of Geographical location .

A Startling reason for declining a Groom

You may have come across ( heard) many reasons for the rejection of a groom by a prospective bride.But here is an incident which is like an icing on a cake .

 Real Life Incident 

The shishyas of a prominent Acharya Purusha were very happy that they got a bride for their son after searching for 3 years . A grand Nichayathartham ceremony was performed , Marriage hall finalised ,Invitations printed and as per tradition their Acharya was invited for the soon to take place wedding of their son..

Due to some reason the Acharya could not attend the wedding on the Muhurtha date printed on the invitation.The Acharya happened to meet the Shishyas after the wedding date and as is custom enquired about the smooth conduct of the marriage like this " Enna Kalyanam achaa? Matt(r)uppenn vandacha? " when he got a negative reply with a long face from the shishyas.
 
Upon further enquiry the shishyas narrated as follows


" We were excited about the Marriage and had made all arrangements for the Grand finale .A few days before the wedding date the would be bride ( Whose Nichayathartham was over) called over phone around 6.15 PM and wanted to speak to the would be groom .Since the boy was performing Sandhayavanthanam , we asked the Girl to call after some time and went about our duties .The Girl did not call back . Instead the Girls mother called us and told us the wedding cannot take place as planned as they perceived the Boy's family to be too orthodox ( aachaaraamana kudumbam) and that the Girl who was modern in her upbringing cannot cope with Santhayavanthanam , Thiruvarathanam,Madisar , Madi thaligai etc." saying so the Shishyas family wept in front of their Acharyan.

Where is our community headed? 

Can such incidents take place in Muslim or Non Brahmin community.

We have spoilt our society in the name of Liberalisation and unlimited freedom.



  
    

Manamagal Veettaarin Azhumbu - Arrogance

Sometimes the azhumbu done by the parents of "neo brides" is too much to digest.After having used to the numerous conditions posted by these brides parents, we , the boys side relatives are even willing to relocate the grooms to the place of the brides choice .But these people are so arrogant they are not even willing to listen to what the groom's side has to offer on the point of relocation .The moment someone mentions the name of a town or city other than that of the bride they simply disconnect the phone line.This is atrocious.Maybe Visu can make a film titled "Manal Kayiru" part 2 but this time the conditions would be from the bride side instead of the groom side.I think this film will become a superhit with repeat audience since nearly 95% of the Brahmin boys community would associate it with their own experience.